Mr. Stranger, when you reach out to someone with personal challenges like you did with that other individual when the other person fails to respond what that is really saying most is not so much that they don't care or are rejecting "you", instead what it really means, just as you are now seeing with your parents is "I don't know how and my answer is always going to be blaming instead of being understanding and helpful".

Your parents literally "taught" you to struggle the way you are struggling. Your father did not allow you to socialize and develop social skills when you were a child, he insisted you focus on your studies instead. Your father consistently sends you messages of "you need to take care of ME", and he shows anger towards you and tbh, your father is very narcissistic. When a parent raises a child and is constantly critical of that child, unfortunately that child can develop an inner conversation where that child begins to think that he will always face some kind of rejection.

All these feelings of failures you suffer from was TAUGHT to you. Actually, these feelings of "shame" take place in a lot of different cultures. For example, Japanese warriors BELIEVED that if they failed in a fight they are shameful and they were expected to take their own life by the sword. Human history has many examples of how individuals are literally taught "shame" and unfortunately, human beings are extremely malleable where they grow to BELIEVE they are "unworthy".

The other day I watched a documentary about the Mendez brothers who ended up murdering their parents. The father and mother needed everyone to believe they had the perfect family and the father raised both these boys constantly putting them down for not achieving the way the father wanted. The father expected his sons to fit into a picture they were not capable of and the mother under the pressure for perfection ended up becoming an alcoholic. The father was very successful and they were wealthy, but that family was VERY DYSFUNCTIONAL to the point where it turned tragic.

The problem with the way your father is towards you is that he genuinely BELIEVES that he is right and has no idea HE was the one who failed. This is something that happens all the time in humanity. That is showing up in what you experienced when you reached out to that other person with a problem you are having and need help with and he did not respond. You asked him a question he doesn't have an answer for, that's typically why people don't respond or respond where they blame the person who needs help.

You have gotten very sensitive because you have experienced too many people who shame you for their own lack of knowledge where they can actually answer you and help you.

Truth is "most" people like to talk about themselves. The proof of that is evident by how popular Facebook has gotten and all the "selfies" people take. It's an idea of trying to set up a picture of self that seemingly meets up with some kind of approved ideal. That doesn't mean these individuals possess the ability to reach out to others in need of guidance where there is a depth to them where they can think outside of "themselves" and their little world they put up for others to view.