Thanks for your post. The biggest problem that I had with my last T was that she was a blank slate and it drove me crazy. I got really attached and wanted to know everything about her and she would tell me absolutely nothing and it would drive me crazy!

I ended up finding a new T, who rarely self discloses but who will answer any of my questions or at least so far she has. In fact, when I've asked her questions, she doesn't just give me a one word answer, she even may elaborate a little.

I know what you mean when you say that it kind of throws you off as I feel caught off guard when she does because I'm just not used to it. But, I really appreciate it as it makes it feel like she's a real person. I have also been able to talk about very sensitive subjects with her because I feel comfortable with her and I feel like knowing a little bit about her background makes me more at ease. At least I know who I'm talking to.

In summary, I don't mind when she self-discloses, in fact, I find it refreshing. However, if she did it all of the time, that would be a problem!