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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
As someone who "being myself" actually caused me to LOSE friends, I kind of feel like for some of us, there's no other way to interact. For me, it's not as simple as just being myself and everyone will like me. Just realizing that some people find my attempts to socialize (and seriously struggling to do so) cringy (and apparently annoying and frustrating as well) just makes me want to isolate further.
As for people reacting negatively to your advice, were you making sure your criticism was constructive (as in specific and positive as opposed to vague and negative)? Are you making sure you don't come across as superior/smug or judgmental? I'm also not sure how often it's another person's place to try to help someone who apparently tries to hard, to be completely honest.
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I get what you mean. I have been in that place before, and at times still find myself being afraid to be myself around others. Sometimes you do have to slightly alter the way you act so people won't get the wrong impression. I'm just talking about the extremes. And the part about advice, I never meant it to come off as judgmental or superior. I definitely don't feel like I am better than them. If anything, and it usually involved someone I liked at the time, I didn't want to see them getting hurt. They knew something was up, and I am the kind of person who hates seeing other people in distress. Some people just may not like the advice. But I agree, it is ultimately up to them. I usually don't say anything. I only say something if someone comes to me repeatedly asking for advice.