I personally would say....I'm going on vacation until the MD's say it's ok for you to leave the rehab facility. That gives you a longer break. It also gives you time to really think about your situation without taking any definitive stand right now. Since the MD's suggest the rehab facility & he can't go home without you there to care for him....that sort of defines his choice.

I don't have the make-up/personality to care for people like you do. He is lucky to have had you caring for him this long. Honestly dementia & Alzheimer's is the most difficult to care for because they can get so mean....that is what my maternal grandmother was like with Alzheimer's.

Your your wise thinking.....burn out is horrible. Had it happen at work & I never did recover but other issues hit at the same time.