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Originally Posted by Travelinglady
Twenty is young in my book. You have plenty of time to find someone who believes in your values--and they do exist. But, I am bothered by your thinking you don't want to have sex at all--even in marriage, xxxyyyzzz? God designed it and blesses it in marriage. It's a special gift between two committed, loving people. And children are a gift from Him. (My take on it. I know some people disagree.)
I agree that you need to talk to someone about your aversion to sex, dear one.  |
He does believe and respect my values and my boundaries, though. He understands when I tell him that something he does is "too far". But since he does see a future with me, I become afraid that I'm not going to reciprocate in the sexual part of the relationship. I try to picture it and I cannot see myself having sex with anyone (not just him) when I'm married, nor do I see myself pregnant at the moment, however I do see myself with kids and a family of my own. I actually dreamt earlier this week that I had 3 baby boys who were mine, and I was giving them a bath (I didn't want to get rid of them for once). One of them giggled because I was tickling his belly and I was so happy to see him smile because of me. I don't know, I never had a dream like that before. I guess I do have to tell him about it, throw it out there and see what he thinks or where he stands in this whole thing, because I do feel bad for both of us and our relationship.