Have your doctors seen your house? Pets? Condition you live in?

You mentioned "your property". It's not yours though? Is your name on that house? If not then it's not yours.

I live with spouse with OCD and I know it's totally irrational, but I feel there is help. When he was younger he got help from very vocational rehab services, help with behavioral therapy etc your state definitely has it to. One has to seek it. If you are on disability, vocational rehabilitation services should be helping you along with your case manager and a psychiatrist.

it is pretty clear that your boyfriend isn't going to clean anything and nothing will be done. I am extremely concerned about pets. I am unsure how your boyfriend affords all these vacations he goes on to. Both i and my husband have college degrees and professional jobs and decent salaries but the most we can afford is two vacations a year. How does he pay for these trips? What does he do for a living that he could be gone for weeks?