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In sessions, since he basically forced me to stop idealizing him and to stop the transference, it just hasn't been the same.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">How can you stop the transference? Did you feel that since you stopped idealizing him, the transference stopped automatically? I don't think of those two things as being linked. I would like to understand more about what you meant. I hope you are feeling better and I'm sorry you don't feel safe with your T anymore. Can you tell him that?

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will I ever feel totally safe with him again? Or does that end when you realize that he is actually a human being?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">For me, the answer is that safety is not related at all to my T being a human being. Because of my T's therapeutic orientation (eclectic but with strong basis in humanistic psychology), there has never been in any doubt for me that he is very, very human. It's wonderful, actually. And this has not in any way stopped me from feeling safe with him.