The question "why don't they just go for guys?" Demonstrates such a total and abject ignorance of LGBT issues tbat it boggles my mind. He doesn't sound like he understands lesbian issues even remotely. I like soft butch women for a complex number of reasons, among them attraction to people confident enough to flaunt gender norms, a love of the interplay between a particularoutward display contrasted with inner femininity, etc.
What I am definitely NOT attracted to is men. I like a butch appearance with female characteristics/body parts ( softer skin, different hair, different shape, even the bone structure of men and women are different). Being butch and being masculine are not equivalent and the fact that he does not know that suggests that he us not equipped to counsel really anyone. But definitely not a gay woman.