I'm old and dated before the terms "friends with benefits" and "booty call".

One bf, call me or came into my store once or twice a week, and that's how often we dated. When we dated, we went out to dinner, dancing, he took me out with his friends and family. In fact, he took me to meet his mother on our first date!

So, it was like he was my bf and we were dating. But I only saw him once or twice a week. And we had sex when we got together. But he never told me he loved me. He never talked about us having a future. I never asked him where he goes or who he sees. I was even told by a friend that he was seen with another woman. I never even said anything to him.

So this was what we'd now call a quasi friends with benefits relationship. But I called it a bf who didn't want to commit to me.

Then it ended horribly. We had a date. I was starting to move myself in on him as a strategy to get closer and he knew it, and obviously didn't want me. Because he stood me up and never called me again. And I never called him again. That's how it ended.

I don't mean to hijack the thread. I hope this can help the OP think about relationships and feeling healthy.

This relationship scarred me pretty good for a long time.