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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
There are scientific studies that prove there is a mind - body connection. For instance, if we smile it actually makes us happier: https://www.scientificamerican.com/a...e-you-happier/ --"A spate of recent studies of botox recipients and others suggests that our emotions are reinforced—perhaps even driven—by their corresponding facial expressions."
And there is no doubt that when my H and I have good sex--I am kinder, more patient, smile more, etc. for a while after--sometimes it can last days (it would have to be really good for the afterglow to last more than 24 hours  ) so I think people who just want sex are not getting the most out of life. I find the concept a bit sad (you should at least be caring friends) and if it was more than just an accidental one night stand--someone in that relationship could eventually get hurt.
So it is well known that people do this but IMO these types relationships aren't healthy for us. When I was with someone in a sexual relationship once and he didn't want to commit, I moved on--when he called wanting to see me (I didn't return the call) then showed up at my door one night (I refused to answer because I was in a committed relationship with H)--did it hurt him emotionally? I do not know but he was the one who was unable to commit. I was not going to jeopardize my relationship with H for someone who was seeing others and treated sex so casually. Since that relationship was all about sex it felt wrong to see him anymore. Sex jeopardizes friendships but I don't think that was what this guy was about. Perhaps I am old fashioned?
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I am in total agreement that it's not healthy. Friends with benefits or casual sex aren't things for me whatsoever. I am happily married.
I personally was talking about that there might times and circumstances in people's lives when they dont want anything else besides casual
Encounter. I don't know anyone who want to spend their entire lives having casual sex. Certainly not.
But you also need to understand that not everyone spends their whole life married. Many people end up single or widowed or divorced or between relationships or preoccupied with other things etc and NOT wanting serious relationship at that particular moment. It doesn't mean they might not want something else at the moment.