So I have been in two minds about starting this thread. Mainly because I like to be clear about what I need from a thread and I really don't know what I need here because I'm really not sure why I'm having such a strong reaction to what occurred in therapy. I've talked a bit in PM and I feel a bit reassured that my feelings aren't completely irrational.
I know what I don't want from this thread - I don't want to be told my T is being a jack@ss and I don't want to be told I am being stupid for feeling this way. So if either of those constitute your opinion, please keep it to yourself. I'm feeling rather sensitive.
As some people might have read on another thread, two big coincidences occurred in my therapy this week. It was the first week after the break. I brought a book which had been helpful and read a passage. T asked me who had written It, and when I told him, he laughed and said it was his former therapist. That was a huge surprise. I googled this writer afterwards and he lives at the opposite end of the country so it's not like it was just a local book or anything. It does kind of make sense because this chapter talked about an idea we were talking about in therapy. It's not massively surprising really that he will have been influenced by someone who teaches that idea.
Then later in the session I got my phone out to show him some photos and he went really quiet. I asked him what he wasn't telling me. He asked if I had a new phone case, I said yes. He said he was just distracted by it.
Thst didn't add up to me and I just looked at him. He said Oh, I suppose I'd better tell you, I just got that same case for my kindle. At first i think he had been worried his choice had been unconsciously influenced by my phone case, but I told him he hasn't seen it before.
It reeeeeally bothered me that he went so quiet about it. I told him so and he said he hadn't had a negative reaction, but he pointed out it was the second big coincidence that session. I was and am a bit frustrated with him but also a bit confused about how close we have become. We like each other a lot, and we are quite similar. I feel like that's scaring him a bit which worries me. I might be wrong about him being scared but it's how I feel. I'm impatient to discuss it further with him.
Like I say, I'm not sure what I'm looking for, maybe just friendly perspectives on what's gone on and why it has bothered me so much.