@@ - thanks for this. The 'reason' (for want of a better word) why these coincidences occurred is really interesting to me. They do seem linked to our similarities and influences, so, like you say, not completely random. And I also really like what you said about all the coincidences which could almost occur but then don't, because of a chance different decision etc. It's very true.
Interestingly, this is the first time I've ever read a book passage out to him. And if he hadn't asked me who had written it we would never have known. I wonder if he already had a suspicion when he asked.
I've actually been seeing him for 2 years and 8 months (!) That's quite astounding to me, it's certainly flown.
It did seem like an in the moment reaction and I probably don't cut him enough slack for those. He said he was okay about It, but for some reason it made me want to rip my phone case off in the moment, so that felt like quite a strong reaction from me.
Thanks so much for your thoughts.