Those attachment issues are so difficult. I talked to my T's about the cat I got from a rescue centre a year ago. He'd been neglected by his previous owners and we've gone through his " stuff " as it's come up. First night he was in the shelter there was a terrible thunderstorm , the first time he was with me when it rained he got upset and came to me for reassurance ( which he got ) , and the same with stepping over him when he's sprawled out in the hallway , and moving things around. And now he's absolutely fine with all those things - I guess he's got a secure attachment , but there's no shame for him about any of it. I've been able to give him what I didn't have which my T's have commented on , I didn't displace my abuse onto him. But I'm still working on me !