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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
I have been there--it is a situation where you feel like "this is the best I can do" or maybe they are a friend and you don't want to hurt their feelings--when you get involved because you think it's the best you can do, there is nothing worse for your self esteem--nothing.....but I know it happens because people get lonely or are curious or simply have no self control....
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I don't think it's that simple that people are lonely or have no self esteem or no self control. I think it's a simplistic view. Not everyone wants committed relationship at all times in their life. Some people had a period in their life when they liked to party lol it doesn't mean they spend their whole life partying or that they have no self esteem.
I see it as a problem if people screw someone married, but frankly who cares if two consenting adults have safe sex with no commitment?
We don't really know why people decide to do things he. I read a lot on here about people in horrible marriages and not leaving, that's maybe something to do with low self esteem too. I would personally prefer safe sex with no commitment than being unhappy in bad marriage. Who is to decide what's better? And why people do things? What's normal for one person is totally crazy for the other.