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Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend
I don't consider you a loser. So what if you didn't take the "normal" path in life? Who cares if you didn't go to college right out of high school and you don't want to buy a car, a house, and have a bunch of kids like many "normal" people end up doing? Who cares if it took longer for you to figure life out yourself while you have had to deal with a bunch of MI that would break most people quickly?
I turn 26 next week, yet I just started at a Community College this June and just now started working my first "real" job at the college campus. I've never been to a university, never owned a car, never even had a chance to get my driver's license (which I'm working on now), and have never had a girlfriend. Does that make me a loser? No.
People like us have had to work harder to get to where we are at in life because of the crap we had to deal with in our past. Anybody could become successful if they are physically and mentally healthy and have families that support them and love them. Somebody like us accomplishing something meaningful with our lives stands out and makes us all that much more significant because most people couldn't deal with what we have had to.
So no, you're not a loser. If anything, I would call you a fighter for getting to where you are now after dealing with what you have had to.
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I appreciate what you're trying to say, but you don't know me at all.
I DID go to college straight out of high school and then went and got my Masters after that. Then took a year off, generally being a loser, then went back for my doctorate because I didn't know what else to do.
I do want to get married and own a house. It has nothing to do with what other people have, it's just what I personally want. I may want kids someday too. Again, nothing to do with what other people do/want.
And I haven't had to work hard at all. Ever. That's the problem. I tried to work as hard as I could this summer but only was able to handle 50-55 hours a week. I'm hoping to have three jobs this fall, but I'm not sure if I'll even make it to the interviews of the 8 positions I applied for. And if I don't get a job that most people don't want, then I'd have no chance at highly competitive positions in higher ed. Which is one of the reasons I've given up on that.
Honestly, a lot of stuff was handed to me on a silver platter and the fact that I can't capitalize on it and become wildly successful proves that I'm a loser.
I'm sure all of this makes me the kind of person you hate. That's okay. That's why I mostly keep to myself.