What comes through when I read this is... ambiguity. I know when I was in this sort of situation, I found myself asking over and over what the hell is this. Could never define it.

I'm here for you, but only in a limited way. I do care, but don't get the wrong idea. You can contact me if in crisis, but I'll only send a short reply. It's a real relationship, but not really.

Endless mixed messages. Never again.