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Originally Posted by kenziemae312
What do you do when you have PTSD, have had it almost 19 years and never received any help or treatment, you need therapy but the therapist who was supposed to help you, who specializes in trauma, won't take you as a patient because they don't think you're ready? I have a lot of questions, I feel like I have emotionally regressed back to when it first happened. I'm terribly stressed with the day to day of living and caring for my kids. But focusing on them keeps me from focusing on the pain. Is it selfish to want to be ? Is it selfish to not want to hurt? Or to not live in fear? Thx for reading.
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I had the same reaction from a therapist, actually my first one and I felt like you. Hurt, confused, and just didn't understand what the "not ready" meant. I mean I made the appointment and I was there, what else was I suppose to do?
What I figured out was that "not ready" meant not ready to commit to the work it was going to take. To do everything the therapist says. I understand that more now because it is a lot of work and a lot of trying different things. Also it means addressing the trauma, talking about it a lot. Even though it's painful, it has to be done or else you will remain stuck where you are. Does this make sense?
In a way it's good that she told you that. Because if you are not ready to commit and work through the traumas, you will be wasting your money going to therapy. But you may want to look for another therapist too, someone you are more comfortable with.
No you are not being selfish at all, getting help is actually getting peace for you and your family. When mom is feeling better everyone benefits. Plus you are showing that it's okay to ask for help and to talk things out. Something kids need to see and understand themselves. Hope this helps and that you find the right T for you.
