Thank you for replying Didgee and Gr3tta
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Originally Posted by The_little_didgee
Why do your parents have to attend the meetings? If you don't want your treatment team talking to them, you have that right and it should be respected. Anyway, you are an adult.
Have you been declared incompetent?
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My parents were initially invited to the meeting, but since I banned staff from talking to them, they are no longer invited. I have not been "declared incompetent"; not sure what that means for the UK - maybe lacking capacity?? Idk? But my pdoc did say my "insight and capacity are gray areas"; whatever that means. But they say they will respect my wishes not to talk to my parents. Though the issue was everyone colluding behind my back, that's what I object to.
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Originally Posted by The_little_didgee
This is what they do best. Once they read the chart from a previous doctor they won't challenge the diagnosis. Unfortunately once they see the label it is all they see. Isn't this called cognitive bias?
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Yes, it is.
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Originally Posted by The_little_didgee
You could comply, even though you don't agree, and keep your distance from the staff and other clients and remain quiet at the same time until they release you.
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I'm just worried that they will see my compliance as permission to continue treating me in such an appalling way or something. I find this whole farce offensive! I do not deserve to be locked up like a criminal!!
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Originally Posted by Gr3tta_0
I an absolutely empathize with your desire to refuse the meeting.
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Thank you.
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Originally Posted by Gr3tta_0
However, if you do this, you will never know what was said and discussed there. You will only be informed of the outcome later. If you are okay with this, then thats okay. But if you attend, you can at least hear whats said.
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Since my parents aren't going to be there, I don't really care what my nurse and pdoc say to each other. They already talk behind my back at their review meetings that all the staff attend.
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Originally Posted by Gr3tta_0
And at this ctitical time while decisions are being made, i would personally take the opportunities to be viewed as actively participating in my own care. For mself i would expect this to help me be viewed positively, and i would want to do anything to get out. Thats just me though. Good luck!!
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Yeah, I see your point. I would email my solicitor about it, but he's away on holiday until after the meeting. But I imagine he would recommend attending because they're always going on about my 'lack of engagement' and they could use it as 'evidence' that I won't engage in the community, which is what they keep saying.
I just object SO MUCH to the way I'm being treated and I'm worried that attending and 'engaging' with their BS will make them feel that it's not such a big deal and I don't really care that much. Not attending sends a clear message that I'm not happy about the way I've been treated. But, at the end of the day, I just want whatever gets me out of here ASAP... Idk...
How do I make them see how badly they've treated me? How much they are failing to understand me? That they need to treat me like a human being who deserves their respect and kindness?? I don't know how to make them see me, understand me. I don't understand why they are getting it so wrong??!
*Willow*