Your feelings are completely understandable. The mind set you were in with your plans, then having this baby unexpectedly and with no baby daddy in the picture. I'm sure it must have been very tough!

I've raised three boys. I rarely thought about not been 'good enough'. My thoughts about motherhood were it's my job to keep them alive, and teach them to take care of themselves. I didn't stand on my head to do things for them. I taught them everywhere we went.

I'd take them with me to the grocery store, for example, and I'd talk to them, explaining things about everything around us. They learn so much, like little sponges.

I was severely depressed because of my relationship with my h. During this time, I was a mother. I really once told them, "If you see mommy on the floor and you can't wake me up, dial 911".

We played together, watched their TV shows together. I always loved and adored them. That's all they need, really. To have their needs met, to be with you and feel your love.