Thanks for the reply. I think we are both home bodies to some degree, but for him it's just gotten worse since we moved to a new city. I've made friends from work but he hasn't really made friends and I understand that must be hard. I'm not really outdoorsy either but I do need to do some activities. I really don't want us to spend all our free time together, but right now we spend basically none of our free time engaged with each other, or at most maybe a few hours a week. And whenever we do he doesn't really seem like he wants to be doing it. He will usually resist doing the activity and then later apologize and say he likes Getting out of the house. We used to love going to movies and out to eat, and we don't know a lot of people here so it's hard to get a babysitter. He doesn't really like the trouble of going out to eat with a toddler and I get it. I just feel like we don't behave as a unit at all, and I often feel that whenever I'm home it is my job to supervise our child unless I specifically ask him to do it. If we are both doing something and our toddler needs us, it will be me who tends to her. He says it's cuz he's with her all day which I get but I know
If I stayed home with her he wouldn't take over right when he got home and I know this for a fact because I was home with her on my maternity leave and after I got laid off before I had my new job. It's just like we see the world completely differently and it is so sad. I don't want it to be like what happened to you that sounds pretty awful. I really want things to get better but I can just tell there is so much tension between us. We have had our ups and downs but I feel like we haven't really conquered the fundamental issue that's making us unhappy or causing us not to click anymore. And I don't know what to do about it. it's not even just about going out it's doing things at home like cooking or something, I'd like us to do things together at home sometimes also, things that just seem normal to me