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Old Aug 08, 2017, 02:02 AM
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How do you feel about therapy overall, now?

in a nut shell, 'bitter-sweet'. the six year relationship with my ex-T definitly had it's good moments...even a few healing moments sprinkled in there from time to time, but overall, the process of therapy left quite a bitter taste in my mouth. similar to you, much of therapy seemed more about reenacting and triggering old patterns, relationships, and traumas, but never moving past them. not only do i now recognise that my ex-T was a bit incompetent when it came to working with my level of truama, and, much of the time, therapy seemed more about him and fulfilling his needs than mine. i also now question the methods that were used in therapy and wonder if they were more harmful than helpful for my issues, like covert levels of manipulation to trigger or bring forth my transference reactions in therapy or to T.

Do you entertain thoughts of returning to therapy? Are you happier without it?

if there is one thing that i am pretty damn positive about, i have absolutely no desire to return to therapy. i am quite over the moon with joy that i no long feel that therapy, or being in a 'therapeutic' relationship with my ex-T has to be a part of my life just so i can exist everyday. i have reached a point where i feel quite content and comfortable about life. i no longer carry an eternal dark pit of despair inside my very being nor do i fear being alone or unworthy of love anymore. now, i can confidently say that i except and embrace myself for who i am, faults, quirks and all, while remaining true to myself.
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