I am so sorry for your pain.....so very sorry for all you are going through. I rely on the people around me too....for so much (physical and mental) and it's a horribly demoralizing feeling to be so dependent. Speaking as someone who also is very much needed by those around me I can safely say your loved one is glad to be there for you but I do know that is hard to accept. It's scary to be dependent......terrifying for so many reasons. I think a therapist would be helpful. (((Hugs)))