Tell me if I a wrong but don't many Italian mothers handle most of the chores inside the house (especially cooking--aren't most great cooks)? I am guilty of being like this too. When my children would offer to help, sometimes I would say, "That's alright, I got this." Ironically, I wanted them to have plenty of time to study and they were enrolled in the college prep type courses yet my son is now working in the construction industry. I think your main job right now is to find a job, apprenticeship or go back to school in order to find a way to make a living some day. In the meantime, make sure you are exercising at least 40 minutes a day.