I avoid potentially unfavorable consequences in general unless the reward outweighs the risk for me.

For socializing, this means that I will outright avoid dealing with people all together unless I want something from somebody or the person is already a friend or loved one.

If I don't want or need something from a stranger than the risk of being rejected, judged, or harassed somehow generally outweighs the potential reward for me; especially if the person in question is a woman that I like.