I am in desperate need of reinforcements. I could write a laundry list of problems that we are having. But I'll keep it as short as I can.
3 teens are mine.........1 5 year old is ours
My husband thinks the worst of my 3 older children. The facts are: they have never been in trouble, good grades, part time jobs, no drugs or alcohol, they are sassy, and don't help out much around the house, my middle son is ADHD and very loud. Our latest issue is that he thinks I should forbid my ADHD son from spending his own money on more guitars,etc. I feel like it is wrong to tell my son how he can spend his money. He earned it and received it as Christmas gifts. While I may think he should be spending it more wisely or saving for college, etc., I don't think I have a right to forbid him to spend it on a specific thing. My husband says: "Aren't you the mother? Then you have every right to tell him how he can spend his money." I disagree. Then he counters with: "At what age can a child call the shots about spending his money?" (in a very sassy sarcastic tone I might add) I say spending equals learning. They have to learn from their mistakes just like anyone else. I talk to my kids about things they might want to consider doing with their money. But I think, that is where the buck stops. Help! This sounds so minor. But it is only one of many similar issues. I just want him to butt out where my 3 older kids are concerned. I know that is not good for the relationship. But we simply can not agree where they are concerned. Does this ring a bell for anyone?