Are you in abusive relationship? It seems you are afraid of him. I understand certain things could be only authority of the owner like repairs but to get house cleaned or cats picked up you don't need his permission. I had a long term live-in relationship. We lived in his house. We had a cleaning lady and a cat sitter who watched our cat when we're out of town. Neither ever asked me if I own the house, and I was the one making arrangements. You cannot make repair or remodeling arrangements but no one asks if you are the owner of its other things need to be done.