Hello Concerned: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find whatever amount of time you spend here to be of benefit.

As far as your husband's situation is concerned, I don't know as there is a lot I can offer with regard to this. This simply sounds like something your husband needs to address in therapy. And later on perhaps some couples counseling for the two of you might be of benefit as well since, while it is primarily his problem, it is having a significant impact on your relationship as well. Perhaps other members will have other suggestions to offer. I wish you well...