I don't know whether I should have posted this here, or in the Other Mental Health forum.
I seem to come of as arrogant, because I had an attitude of "It's their problem for being so angry, so let's take care of them so I can get a positive response for a change".

I hope someone can help me out in this. This topic makes my stomach crumb/squint/whatever.

I sometimes think I may come off as bossy on my own, though mostly by accident. It's not that I tell them what to do, but I personally see myself as valuable and a person of my own, especially regarding work where I prefer and love to work independently and have equal relations with people, even if they're managers. All those emotions of primarily anger I feel, it's just hard for me.