Welcome to PsychCentral, Apollite.

I'm very sorry to read that you didn't get diagnosed or referred to effective help. I like PsychCentral because I can interact with people without feeling so much social anxiety. I feel like I've learned a few new ways to be and to express myself somewhat, which has then helped with the horrible social anxiety I used to feel when trying to be with people in person. I certainly hope that you might find something like that here, too. It's definitely not been a "quick fix", and I've been here for years, but it's something . . .And with the support of other people, even just these text messages on an internet forum, my problems have turned out to be not entirely insurmountable, although grieving the lost years has definitely been a challenge for me, too.