For me this is unexceptable:

Case..My boyfriend and i lived together for 3 years. I had a drinking problem he had a drug problem. It was my house I asked him to leave

Split on....bad terms I had him evicted.

1.5 months later we decide we want to date.
Something magical happens...we were both sober and i have never felt so loved or so willing to love before...It felt like a safe, protected journey.

I am still sober a couple of months ago boyfried slipped up and he didn't have anywhere to "hide" to do the crack/cocaine. So he went to an old "haunt"...where there is 2 females..He never told me he was doing this while he would leave me in his bed at his apartment and go do his thing..he told me it was with a guy...he told me he was going to a guys house.

So..last night he sends me a text and says he has to tell me something..He tells me what he has been doing..and wanted to know if I wanted him to stop going over there (this girl Monica one of the girls is texting him now)...They talk innocently enough but you can read the flirtation within the texts....

He tells me today he won't ever go there again if I don't want him to but one of the girls is very sick and he has been friends with her for a long time

I don't want to have this discussion with him NOW. He should have discussed it with me either prior to going over there or directly after..not 2 months after...

All day I told him today that I would consider remaining in a relationship with him and I would think of how I felt about him going off to go do drugs/alcohol with 2 women...and that I would be honest with him.

So...I was honest for how I feel about all this...I told him I do not want to be in a relationship with him....too many secrets..lies...AND THEN he trys to act like what he does is no big deal....It is unacceptable to me for him to go party with 2 females...every once in a while....

I know he loves me...to death...I know that he says he can be trusted..but I also know one of the girls he was with that is still texting him..I know drugs/alcohol can lead to feeling too uninhibited...she used to have a crush on him about 12 years ago...It doesn't feel right in my gut.

So I told him I am done with this....he says please..I won't go there...I say...no please do go there..your going to need your "friends" cause I won't be around.

He thinks its fine to hang out with them.