**Update**

Although I have started discussing this with T, because it's painful and complicated we haven't got very far with it. More importantly I've not found another coping strategy, and this Sunday should have been the birthday. The nights are worse than ever. I have decided to ask T to look after my 's-h' kit for the week (Thursday to Thursday). If it's not readily available I hope that will buy my logical brain a bit more time to reason with the emotional part and either lift my mood, or deal with it in a different way.

Is this something he can do?
I don't think bend be allowed to confiscate it against my will. Is asking a T to help you in this way as much of a no no as them intervening by 'doing'?
Or does the fact that I'm asking (while rational) for the help make a difference?