My apologies to the OP for taking this thread on a tangent.

My h and I got married in a totally traditional way. He, the breadwinner. Me, the housewife and mother. Our marriage was not just about us two, those three children came first. We raised three great kids who are becoming responsible adults to 'take on' this world.

My h provided me the security of knowing he was committed and his salary. I provided him with a home and family, dinner on the table for him, holidays, parties, etc...

And yes, I cracked up during all this, eventually getting diagnosed, all because of how he is sexually and the toll that took on my emotions.

We have not divorced (yet). If we do, I am not STEALING half his earned money. I damn well deserve half! We are a team. He could not have had the home and family without my efforts, and I could not have paid for it without his efforts.

We have both been very committed to the marriage. Even through this hellish problem, we stay committed and faithful.

I'm still a firm believer in marriage. I hope it doesn't become obsolete in the future.