Thanks for this post.

My ex therapist is not on fb and neither am I. Nevertheless, we are good friends. Another ex therapist I saw when I was pregnant and nursing moved to a different state years ago and so did I. When I used to use Facebook I found her many years ago. She accepted my friend request. She is in her eighties now. I have gone to visit her 5-6 times when I am in that state for vacation I drive 2 hour to see her and have some of my fondest memories. She never married or had kids and has a small family in America. She was professor and a few of her former students are fb friends. She welcomes our visits and makes my son the most delicious European pastries.

If I have left a lot of things undone with a former therapist and was still doing the dreaded "attachment" piece then I would walk away, but if my work with her was as far as it could go, given the circumstances, I would take the offer and who knows, a beautiful life long friendship might develop.

I also have a standby therapist and she has a long ago abandoned Facebook acct. I have no desire to be a part of her Facebook, it I don't know what she would say.