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Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend
This is exactly why I am an opponent of marriage.
To me, marriage is little more than a scam. It's harder to get help if your poor and if you're well off financially, your spouse can divorce you and steal half of your hard earned assets.
In fact, a relative gave me some extremely good advice awhile back that I should have heeded sooner in my life: never let money get in the way of friendships because money turns friends into enemies. I consider this bit of advice especially true for relationships. If you love somebody enough to want to get married to them, they are technically your "best friend", right? If I felt so strongly for somebody, I would NOT want to have something like money break us apart.
I don't need a woman's help paying my own way and I have no interest in using one for money either. Besides, if I am too poor to be able to take care of myself and my loved ones, than I have no business in a relationship anyways.
I know some of my opinions are rather unpopular or unconventional, but I felt the need to express myself here.
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I agree with you in that money should not be the reason you marry nor the reason to divorce. My point in my post was that marriage is no longer a scam for society to benefit by way of profiting the individual as some still try to make it out to be. Marriage has always been a promise of undying love to me and will always be that, though I do know and realize in some societies it is meant differently. Not really as much monetary, as it is a promise between families when a child is born, or a contract in order to in some way benefit both sides. Even then, marriage is meant to form a close bond. Marriage is not a scam, it is a union entered into with trust given on both sides no matter the circumstances, and love given on both sides in most in America and other such countries. The scam is the belief that somehow marriage is supposed to win you benefits not otherwise accessible.
My husband and I have had our problems anyway and he is forever saying to me "then get a divorce", I am forever telling him I don't want one, but one time I got angry enough to look up the laws here. That's how and why I know them. So when the SS lady told us getting a divorce is a solution, it was quite laughable to me. If I am already having monetary issues living with him and both incomes calculated together, how the devil am I supposed to live separate from him for a year using only my income but still having his income calculated into mine? So money is neither a reason for marriage not divorce. It is also not the reason I stay with him (since I already told you I told him that even before I knew the laws or spoke to the SS lady) but it is something people use as an excuse against marriage. I don't agree with that reasoning.