you sound pretty upset when people talk trash about other women. Just because you are a feminist, like a lot of women with good reason, If I were you I would just shake it off aand roll it over my shoulders. You sound also like you could use some help therapist wise. could you get a therapist? you need to let off steam but not too much anymore than Shane can handle as it is a sensitive thing to do and it might drive him away. I would get some help if I were you. you did good in letting your emotions go outside and not make a scene. good luck!!!!!!!