This is exactly what my shrink said. She said, I don't think she's the right sort for you but I don't know her and if you love her, and she makes you feel the way that you say you do, don't be in a rush to end things.

I used to be terrible at this. I'd drink and break up at first sip of booze which loosened my tongue. My impulse is to be very binary: either all or nothing. But to try to salvage things with this girl, I quit drinking a month ago (she still drinks), which has helped immensely. Since then, I don't think I've melted down the old way once. (I do leak, however. Once she was stroking my penis and I said, "Geez, I wish it was 10" long." Her eyes went wide and she said, "Why? I've never been with a guy that big." Then we both looked at each other, knowing where I got that 10" reference, and just let it go, didn't say another word about it.

But all this trust stuff is looming in the back of my wee (numb)skull, especially since we often only see each other once a month, leaving both of us with a lot of free time on our hands.

interestingly, while she presents herself as this naive little flower (despite how she dresses), she had fall more wild (i guess) sexual experiences (three ways w/ two guys, a lesbian period, married men, all in her youth, i think) while all my life i've been about a plain-vanilla as you can get. So, in our relationship, although she would deny it, I am the true naive one.