TishaBuv, hugs!

I wasn't around for a while so I have missed a lot whatever was discussed in the last year or two.

From the top of my head - do you have an option to stay away from your husband for some time? I sounds to me that you could use some alone time to put your thought, priorities and desires in order. Can you stay with your relatives or somebody you know for a week or two? My husband travels sometime, it really helps me to put my thoughts in order.

Have you tried asking him about his thoughts on how to resolve this new issue? You said he is pretty passive, does he ever show any initiative? If he does, in what circumstances?

I also agree with divine1966, as far as I can remember you were struggling with your marriage for some years now. What are the main reasons for you to stay in this relationship?

P.S. Again, missed a lot here. Sorry if any of this was discussed already.