That isn't sad that was a really sweet thing to do. Now it's his turn! Perhaps you can't stand doing it because he is not willing to go to the same lengths you are.

Don't go back to performing in this way until you are feeling love for him emotionally. Divorce is harder for us than people realize. Each of us love our husbands in different ways. They know we are willing to put up with a lot but the minute we start making any serious plans to leave they know exactly which buttons to push in order to woo us back.

This year, my H actually said, "You are never going to leave me--you need me to much." Yes, he has my number figured out! I would not know how to function. It would feel like I felt when I left home after graduating from high school plus I would miss him. We have so much stuff now. When you are 18, everything you have/want fits easily in your car. There is no home to dispose of. We have become accustomed to our daily routine and the division of labor that we have totally worked out.....