My last therapist did seem to be of the "school" that the therapy relationship with her could model a "good", "healthy" that could be a healing, growing experience for me.

And in some ways that seemed OK. But what happened at the end was that a negative transference was evoked, based on my unfinished, relationally traumatic experiences early in my life, and she could not tolerate that.

There are too many stories here of how this idea has gone wrong, not just with me, and I'm guessing it's another fad that will go by the wayside in a few years.

None of the therapists had that view 50 years ago or even 20. It seems to have just come about, I believe, because attachment research in children seems very well-founded. But the leap from that to "attachment therapy" in adults seems very large. And unfounded, like recovering "repressed memories" of abuse was 20 years ago. Remember some of the harm that did?