I absolutely agree. There is no use is making a sad situation even more depressing by having an outsider abusing the people in the situation.
People are so quick to judge those who have been in affairs. Rarely do people stop to think about the factors behind the affair. Some people do indeed have affairs out of selfishness, but more often than not, the story goes much deeper. Some need is being unmet somewhere along the line. In my eyes, that requires unconditional love rather than judgement.

*end rant*