JD, you're not alone in this. The thing is, you're early into your marriage, whereas I'm on 15 years. My wife was a virgin when we met and there were never any passion or sparks in the beginning. There are a host of reasons (none I'm proud of) why I stayed. The blunt answer to all this is - and forgive me for being such a pessimist here - it doesn't get better if it was never there in the first place. You simply cannot force chemistry between two people. Yes, you can/will learn to "love" that person. But in most relationships, there is a bonding stage that normally takes place that forges a longer-term connection between people. If that stage is skipped, I don't know how to deal with that.

At the VERY least, you need to go to IC to work out your issues. MC is also in the cards for the two of you. All that said, you have a newborn on the way and that is going to change your lives forever, no matter what happens. So now is NOT the time to get your wife upset. She needs you 100%. This is your fist kid. It may sound trite, but you have no idea how life changes when the first child comes along.