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Old Aug 11, 2017, 02:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Runcible Spoon View Post
I don't see how JDNA talking about her feelings invades his privacy at all. Any feelings which arise in the relationship deserve to be explored.
JDNA- I agree with the other posters who say he likely is expecting you to bring it up. He knows you've been through a lot lately and probably doesn't want to bring it into the room if you're not ready.
You've done nothing wrong and your feelings are okay. I bet it will be a weight off both your minds when you finally discuss it!
I went to a therapist for 7 years. It helped for self esteem. But we had very strong boundaries. Anything she did not bring up about her life was off limits, and I respected my t's boundaries and she respected mine. Maybe I'm a relic of a distant age, but she never hugged me, etc. The most physical contact we ever had was when I saw her at her summer cottage, when she gave me a couple of home grown squash.

Sorry to be a dissenting voice here.
Hugs from:
junkDNA, StickyTwig