I completely agree. In my case, with my marriage counselor, when I figured out that his wife was sick (complicated story), I did ask him about it. And he said it was OK, that if it was potentially affecting me/the therapy, it was OK to bring up. That I could ask him anything--he might choose not to answer--but asking the question was OK. When I later learned that she'd passed away, he was similarly open to discussing it.

I had a thread on here about when I first learned she was sick, how to handle it. A few posters were very judgmental and harsh to me. I mentioned to MC how some people said I should just "leave the poor man alone" (which is what someone said). But MC said it was up to him, not what other people thought. That he was OK with me talking/asking about it. He wasn't mad, didn't think I was being selfish or intruding or any of that. (Or if he did, he lied and hid his reactions very well.) I think much of it comes down to how a T presents themselves (MC does lots of self-disclosure, generally relevant to what we're talking about) and what the client's relationship with them is like as to whether it's an appropriate topic. Honestly, in my opinion. a T should be OK with a client asking about personal stuff--they can always choose not to answer. It's the T's responsibility to hold boundaries (as they see fit), not the client's.

In JDNA's case, I think her relationship with her T is such that it's definitely OK to talk about the pregnancy and what feelings/concerns it brings up.