I used to hate when men or women stared at me and it made me horribly uncomfortable. I've never went out of my way to be unattractive though....I'm deeply afraid of being made fun of so I put great effort into being presentable but not "sexy". I don't go out anymore and I'm getting older so I don't get the stares I used to from men and women. I used to think people stated because I was funny looking or I looked insane or something but too many people have told me it's because I'm attractive that I get stared at, so I suppose there is some truth to it. I've always tried to look a certain way to just blend it but am told I stand out. I used to think people just said this to me to make me feel better but I do believe there is some truth to it. I don't see myself as attractive but it's pretty rude of me to not accept that some people struggle more in the looks department than I have. Being stared at just sucks though because I'm so horribly uncomfortable in my own skin. I'm getting older though.....and heavier so I think I blend in more now and that is mostly just fine by me. I'm learning to like myself and be less uncomfortable in my skin now that I'm older and I'm grateful for it.

You must be super attractive if you do t even brush your hair, wash or wear deodorant and get stared at! Be proud....when you get older you will likely wish you had appreciated your youth more.....when you are 90, you will wish you'd have taken better care of yourself if you are lucky enough to be more mentally well by then.

People who have been sexually abused or assaulted often protect themselves by gaining weight or other things to become less attractive to future predators. It's so very sad. (((Hugs)))