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Originally Posted by Blanche_
I'm in the type of therapy that focuses on the relationship, so yes, we discuss the relationship feelings all the time.
The idealizing transference is the same thing as 'falling in love'. I no longer think about him constantly (that was a phase) but still do quite a bit.
Your T has some good points, but my T would likely say the opposite in regard to the avoidance--not getting attached and not talking about feelings and projections that arise from the therapy relationship would be the avoidance. It's just a different philosophy.
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I think he meant that in terms of, "Look, I have this distraction of a wonderful therapist in my life and I can't get them out of my mind. They're bright, shiny, and perfect. But they are not. They're just a means to avoid things going on within yourself. They are a distraction, all to avoid that pain that is deep down."
That's basically what he said without the arm and hand gestures, lol. I get what you are saying, if one avoids discussing it. Or in my case, it never gets brought up and while I was entrenched in it, I was completely unaware.