Not everyone has fancy or even expensive weddings. I paid for the wedding license, went to the magistrate, paid for the certificate, it was done. The rings we bought from a pawn shop for less than a total of $200 for my set n his combined. I wore everyday clothes n so did he. We will always be disabled. Does that truly mean we should never marry? And why do we get an abundance of help for living under the same roof unmarried (incomes reported) and then suddenly no help once married (same incomes reported). Yes, we have our issues. We are human beings. Everyone and every couple will have issues. Other issues (including infidelity) may or may not come up later. Nobody can predict the future. Yes, some are worse than others. Yes, some I should not have to go through....but yes, we truly love each other n THAT is why we married. So I ask again, why are we being punished for being married and why does that sit well with you?