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Originally Posted by unaluna
Is this the first time youve mentioned the rape? I dont recall you ever saying anything before. Did you get therapy at the time? Did you talk about it when you were in counseling recently? It kind of explains your drinking (before sex) and your other remarks. Sort of a cavalier attitude. I can identify with that - we're abused, and there is no allowance for our feelings, so we act tough, but are really very fragile. And yeah, how can your husband never have picked up on that? But hes not a shrink.
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I was a rather prude girl, yet still boy crazy. At 16, and a virgin, I went on my first car date with an older brother of an acquaintance from school. She had set up the date, said he liked me having met me once at her house for one minute. I went, not even liking him.
I didn't understand what happened and many years later realized he must have drugged me.
I didn't even tell my mother at the time. I never saw the guy again, never told anyone except my bff.
I didn't think this really even bothered me all lthat much. Frankly, I felt I was glad to be rid of my virginity. Although I was perplexed why I had sex with a guy I had absolutely no attraction and had zero desire to have even a kiss with.
I didn't think about this until I started having real problems with my h and going to counseling.
And the therapists reactions when hearing this story was just to say "I figured so".