My aunt is a total feminist. She wasn't a good role model for me and my sisters. Just recently, I gave her a what-for because she never intervened. She never helped my mother see things more clearly and be more independent when she was so lost after my father died. And she never helped us girls. She says she was just trying to keep her head above water, too. Also, confused about smart choices. Made bad financial decisions.

I remember asking my mom and step dad, how do you change a flat tire. And it was my step dad, I think, who said "You hike up your skirt and wave, that's how you change a tire." It always worked, too, dang it.