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Aug 12, 2017, 03:52 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: USA
Posts: 10,967
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I've only been seeing my psychiatrist for a few months and only been involved with DBT for the same amount of time. I don't know how it's helped me, if indeed it has. I was hoping it'd help with the intrusive thoughts -- which occur during waking hours as well as sleeping, but so far that has not been the case.
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What does your psychiatrist say about the intrusive thoughts?
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In the meantime, since we're involved in a long-distance relationship right now, can I trust her? should I trust her? what do i do with my thoughts that run counter to trusting her?
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What are the pros and cons of trusting her?
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I agree with what you're saying. She sees a therapist twice a week. The therapist has a buddhist orientation and is not at all proscriptive. No DBT/. she is well aware of DBT and wants me to do it, but she's not going down that avenue right now. She believes she is doing very well by her brand of therapy and will admit to no other. Again, it's part and parcel, I think, of her need to see herself as an innocent and not an active participant or proximate cause in my various meltdowns so she doesn't need anything like DBT.
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How long has she been seeing her therapist? What is your impression of her progress or lack thereof in therapy?
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i might be selling myself short there, too, given that perhaps most people would have a problem with the type of lying she does.
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Could you please remind me what she has lied about, leaving aside the **** pic situation?
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before I found out about it, I wouldn't have guessed that she would be into something like that in a million years.
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Well something happening once would not mean that she was "into it". How many other such incidents are you aware of?
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basically, she's very complicated, and at a certain point those complications, or me thinking about them, or me having to deal with them, might get to be too much for me. Don't know where I stand now. Wish I did.
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It can be okay to hesitate in the face of complicated, varied, and conflicting information. How well can you tolerate waiting, hesitating?
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