We talk about it a lot, when I bring it up. She rarely brought it up. She wondered if I was trying to protect a perfect image of her. However, I don't see her as perfect and never have. Therefore I struggle with the concept of idealized or idealizing ones T. I have major maternal transference going on. I still don't see her as perfect.

I have used the transference as a way to link things together. The feelings and thoughts that happen between T and myself are talked about and interwoven with stories of my past (as well as other aids such as music, picture books, ect) eventually things overlap/overlay each other and peace happens. Forgive me if I'm not making sense, it's hard to describe.